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Kute Blackson – CEO of Blackson Group | The Magic of Surrender

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Kute Blackson is the author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One. and is widely considered the next generation leader in the field of personal development by everyone ranging from Larry King, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, and more. He has been featured on Larry King Now, Fox and Friends, Dr. Drew, and Inc magazine call him ‘The Mindfulness Guru Billionaires Go To For Advice’.

A charismatic visionary and transformational teacher, Kute Blackson offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation. Born in Ghana, West Africa, Kute’s multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the foundation for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual’s true gifts and greatness.

For over 20 years, Kute Blackson has been inspiring audiences around the world. From the first time he spoke in front of 3,000 people at age 8, to speaking in over 300 venues by age 18, to helping organizations develop authentic leadership and achieve extraordinary performance over the last decade. His electrifying presentations, not only offer real-world practical ideas and soul-stirring wisdom, but also ignite the heart, and inspire courageous action.

His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically, and fulfill their true life’s purpose.

Talking Points

  • 00:00 — Intro
  • 03:33 — Kute Blackson’s origin story
  • 19:38 — How to deprogram yourself and remove all the negativity from your life
  • 37:15 — How to find your purpose in life
  • 50:45 — Mindset, courage, and getting out of your own way
  • 1:05:41 — Importance of embracing death and understanding your own mortality
  • 1:11:53 — What does Kute Blackson want his legacy to be?
  • 1:12:32 — Where can people connect to Kute Blackson?
  • 1:14:15 — What keeps Kute Blackson up at night?
  • 1:14:49 — The biggest challenge Kute Blackson has overcome in his life
  • 1:15:44 — Kute Blackson’s mentor
  • 1:16:46 — Any book or podcast recommended by Kute Blackson
  • 1:17:03 — What would Kute Blackson tell his 20-year-old self?
  • 1:17:28 — What does success mean to Kute Blackson?

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Scott D Clary, Kute Blackson


Scott D Clary  00:00

Welcome to success story the most useful podcast in the world. I’m your host Scott D. Clary. The success story podcast is part of the blue wire podcast network, as well as the HubSpot Podcast Network. Now, the HubSpot Podcast Network has other incredible podcasts like the salesmen podcast hosted by wil Baron. Now if you work in sales, or you want to learn how to sell or peek at the latest in sales news, check out the salesmen podcast where host will bear and help sales professionals learn how to find buyers and win big business in effective and ethical ways. Now, if some of these topics resonate with you, you’re going to love the salesman podcast, the psychology of the perfect cold call successful cold email trends for 2022 The four step process to influencing buying decisions, or the digital sales room the future of b2b sales. If these topics hit home, you’re gonna love the salesmen podcast listen to the salesmen podcast wherever you get your podcasts. Today, my guest is kute Blackson coot is a transformational speaker and national best selling author. He’s written the book you are the one as well as his new book, The magic of surrender. He has been featured on The Larry King now show as well as Dr. Drew and PR, Fox and Friends mind body and green, and many more. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events, including a fest YPO, or Young Presidents Organization and e o Entrepreneurs Organization. He’s a member of the transformational leadership council, which is a select group of 100 of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. He’s a winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden award, and he is widely considered to be a next generational leader in personal development. His mission is very simple to awaken and to inspire people across the planet, to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose. So what we did in this podcast is, we try to help people understand where they’re spending their time where they’re spending their attention in the following steps. First, we spoke about deprogramming, we have to deprogram what we know to be true in terms of what success is, what happiness is, where we put our time, what job you want to do. And he’s going to show you how to do that. And once we did program then is going to show you how to find clarity, clarity, and what you actually should be doing and how you can take actionable steps to get there. After you find clarity, and you figure out your vision, and where you want to go in your life and your personal and professional sphere, then you have to operate at your highest level. And you have to not get in your own way. And he’s going to teach you how to do that as well. And then, lastly, a little bit morbid, but it’s important, why embracing your own mortality and your own death is key to accomplishing all of these steps. So hopefully after this, you will understand what is actually important to you what isn’t, you’ll be able to use this podcast as a podcast that will force you to self reflect a little bit, maybe increase that self awareness. And then hopefully, it’ll allow you to understand where you want to put your time, attention and energy to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve in your life. And you’ll understand that once you go through the teachings and some of the steps that he teaches over. So let’s jump right into it. This is Kute Blackson. He is a transformational speaker, as well as national best selling author.


Kute Blackson  03:33

Yeah, look, I was born in Ghana, West Africa, my father’s from Ghana, my mother’s Japanese. I grew up in London now live in the US. So I feel like I’m a citizen of the world. But for me as a young boy, I was a very empathetic kid. And I always felt people’s feelings. I felt people suffering very deeply. And there was a part of me as a six year old, a seven year old and he wrote that I wanted to alleviate the suffering in some way. I didn’t exactly know what that would look like. So there was there was a deep empathy and feeling in me I felt people’s pain. I would see see people and this is in London, I’d see people just on the tube on the train on the bus and they were just on this hamster wheel like they were living in the matrix and they just felt so, so lifeless. You know, they weren’t alive and I just felt them. I didn’t really have full comprehension of what the hell was going on. I just knew people were in pain and so I didn’t know how to alleviate their suffering. For me, what also impacted my life was my father and the upbringing. A lot of people called it a different unusual, strange mystical upbringing for me. It felt very normal. In other words, I remember being age seven AJ, being a chubby kid lost in the crowd, and one of my first memories we’re seeing a crippled woman crawling on the floor, and she picks up the sand that this man walks on. My father wipes it on her face by the way, he doesn’t know he’s just walking down people following him, she picks up the sand this man walks and wipes it on her face and stands up. Call it a miracle. And so week after week I grew up seeing blind people see, and deaf PPM miracles, literally, you know the type of miracles that you think, come on. Is this ship real? Is that is that is that real? Are they faking it, but I grew up seeing it with my own eyes, day after day blind people seeing deaf people hearing, my father will look at a woman in a wheelchair and see why in this wheelchair. You’re not six stand up, and she will stand up, my father would look at someone who came to him in crutches and he would say why do you have these crutches Do you believe if you really believe if you really believe believe would me throw the crutches away and start walking. And so my father was considered like, his nickname was the miracle man of Africa. Very spiritual, mystical guy, the spiritual teacher to presidents in Africa, kings in Africa, heads of state, he bought 300 churches in Ghana, West Africa, hundreds of hundreds of 1000s of sort of devotees, so to speak, he had a huge church in London, three to 4000 people every Sunday. So I grew up in this environment. For me, I didn’t think anything unusual about it. I didn’t think anything. I think that was one of the blessings is I didn’t think anything strange about it just seemed normal. And because of that, I grew up with a sense of No Limits. limitlessness there were no limits, blind people seeing Deaf people, hearing people standing up out of wheelchairs, everything is possible. And so everything is possible. And it’s just normal that it’s possible. And I think I was I didn’t realize at the time, it was a blessing to to to be that open. And so when I was age eight, my speaking career began. Because my father just threw me in front of the audience one day and said, Speak, my son is going to speak, I had no idea what I was going to say. I wasn’t that I wasn’t interested in speaking, I was more interested in playing soccer outside, but they put me on the front row. And I remember being on stage and word started to come out of my mouth. And I just started speaking, and that began a journey with communication. And speaking for me, that was really profound. At 14 I was designated to be the successor for my father’s ministry. My father announced once again unbeknownst to me, that I was going to be taking over we didn’t have a conversation about he just announced it. And I guess I should have been excited. But my heart sank. Because in that moment, I knew that this was not my path. I knew that this was not my trajectory. I knew that this was not my purpose. This was not my destiny, that my entire life was being mapped out for me by everyone else, and my father, everyone else, but me. And so when he announced to the congregation, my son’s taking over, I felt terror. I felt anger, I felt I felt all of these emotions, but I was too afraid to tell my father the truth. My fear was if I spoke my truth to my father, my fear was if I really did to be who I was, and shared myself that I would not be loved, I would lose his love, I’d be outcast, I’d be alone, I’d be abandoned. And so for four years, I went along with it dealt with a lot of turmoil and conflict and frustration and questioning and feel 14 to 18. I was ordained and spoke in the church and serve the people. And I just knew that something wasn’t quite right. And when I was 18, I had some decisions to make. I looked into my future, and I decided that I wasn’t going to take over my father’s ministry for sure that I didn’t want to go to university that if I wanted to help people with life that I had to live life, so I felt this calling to come to the US. I felt this calling to come to America, I felt this calling to come to Southern California specifically because from a young age to I started reading all of the books on my father’s bookshelf, I began a an obsession with personal growth from the age of at the age of nine. And so from that, that young age, I began reading everything from Eastern Eastern mystics people like Ramana Maharishi, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, Krishna Murthy, to the Western mystics Plawecki theosophy to the Western self help gurus Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Deepak Chopra. For me, this became my obsession, just trying to understand who we are and why we’re here and what the purpose of life is. And, you know, also in my father’s church, a lot of the people that came to my father’s church in London, they didn’t have a lot of money. They weren’t that educated. They had very little, but what they were truly generous and happy people. They had every reason to not be happy, but were happy. And for a couple of years, I got a scholarship to a very prestigious school called Dulwich College. It’s where a lot of politicians sons, multimillionaires kids, President sons, Prime Minister son sons went and so here I am surrounded by a group of people that have every reason to be happy, but they weren’t. And so this also began another level of questioning. And so as I read these books for me, the the quest was just trying to understand life and the purpose of life and the nature of life and like, is the purpose of life just to wake up, go to work, wake up, go to work, make money, buy a car, go on vacation, and then die. Like, surely there has to be more to the nature of existence and why we’re here than that. And, and if so, what is it? And so as I started reading the self help books, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, Marianne, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, I was obsessed, just trying to figure life out. And when I turned 18, I look into my future, the path that was carved out, I projected 2830 is 4858 60. As I projected into the future, I felt such a deep pain inside. Because I saw that I could be successful by everyone else’s standards, I could be successful by my father standards and the world standards. But if I didn’t have myself, if I didn’t have my own integrity, if I didn’t have my own soul, if I didn’t have my own truth, what kind of success is that? And it became very clear to me that I can’t be truly fulfilled and happy being someone that I’m not, I can’t be truly fulfilled and happy living someone else’s life. And in that moment, painfully, I knew what to do painfully, because I knew that following my soul, and I think sometimes what your soul what your true inner guidance guides you to do, isn’t always safe is not always convenient, doesn’t always make sense to your mind. And I felt this calling to come to the US. And I knew that I had to leave my father’s ministry, I had to leave everything I knew behind. And I knew that would break my father’s heart. And for me, it was terrifying. You know, there’s often a lot of a lot of talk about being fearless ridding yourself of fear. And when you find your purpose, everything unfolds. And it’s easy. I think, sometimes, when you find your true purpose and calling in life, it’s terrifying. It’s scary, because it forces you to expand outside of your comfort zone, it forces you to go beyond who you were before. So for me, it was terrifying. And you had to confront my father and a huge, let’s say, shift in my life to get really began when at 18 had the conversation with my father, the very scary conversation of telling him I wasn’t going to take over his churches. I was going to leave his all he said was, Are you sure? I said, Yes, we didn’t speak for two years. That was really hard. But something happened, I really believe that when you follow your soul, and you choose not to compromise your authentic truth, your authentic self, and you honor that deep impulse inside, you will always end up in the right place at the right time, even if the route that you take isn’t the one you most expect. And so after having this conversation with my father, I was in this sort of abyss, I felt like I was free falling in darkness in the middle of nowhere, where I had this calling, yet I had no means to get there. No means to fulfill it. no college degree, no money, no father support no nothing new, I knew no one in the US. And I said a prayer one day, I was sitting in the library of my school, I said universe, like if if the dream that I have is real. If the dream that I have is authentic, I need a sign. I either sign now I feel this calling to come to America. And I think so many of us we give up right before the breakthrough. We’re in the moment of darkness and we begin to question Are we crazy? Am I am I wanting too much? Why can I just settle for being happy where I’m at. But I think that if you have a dream, that dream is ENCODE is put into your soul for a reason. And inside of that dream is also encoded the seed for its fulfillment. And I believe that the dream doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to life. And our job is to say yes to it. So here I am, said yes to this dream. No frickin idea how it was going to happen. And I’m saying this prayer to the universe, like don’t leave me in the middle of the ocean right now. And and I said, Look, I’ve read hundreds of self help books leap and the net will appeal all of this stuff. And I said universe, I need to know the ship works when I need to know this stuff works. And I kid you not within I don’t know, an hour, two hours someone a kid hands me a magazine called The Economist. I feel a strange feeling. And I follow clues. I look in the back of a magazine. There’s an ad a commercial and that it says the American government is giving away 55,000 green cards in the green card lottery, the DV one green card lottery. I feel chills. I have this feeling I’m going to win. As crazy as it sounds I apply to this law firm. I was told that unless you heard this was April, I was told that unless you heard by September the 18th Just move on with your life you won’t get a notification. Every day. I’m visualizing, I’m seeing myself in America, I cut out a piece of paper color degree and I’m visualizing I think Bill Clinton or whoever, at the time, shake my hand, coming to America held these visions. Every day, nothing. September The 18th comes along, nothing. I’m disappointed. I’m giving up a mad at the universe. I decided I’m going to go into go to America, like I’m going to pack my bags, go to America, I’m not coming back. That night, pack my bags, tell my mother, I’m going in the next week, I’m going to buy a ticket. I’m going to go greencard visa or not I go to sleep, I get a phone call from the law firm that I’ve applied through American voice on the other line, it says, Is this Mr. Blacks? And I said yes. He said, This is the law from you. You apply for the green card through for he says, you want a green card. We just got noticed today, we can’t believe it. You’ve won. And here I am. I started celebrating and freaking out. And I hear this very gentle voice inside that says Why do you seem so surprised? Like you knew did you lose faith did you not trust. And so that’s how it came to the US. You know what, two suitcases one suitcase full of books and self help books, one suitcase full of clothes. $800 came to the US as an 18 year old kid in pursuit of a dream and pursuit of a calling. And my calling was to go into this field of personal development and inspire people and help help remind people of who they really were. And so I came to the US and I found mentors. You know, when I found that Deepak Chopra is in the Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen is of the world and study with some of them learn from some of them a few years later, what really shifted my life. And I would say in my career in my entire evolution was I began to travel, I got to a place where I felt stuck. And I decided that I was going to shave my head, put everything in storage breakup with my girlfriend, and travel until I found certain answers. I wanted to find certain truths and answers for myself. I was tired of looking outside. I was tired of reading about it. And so


Scott D Clary  17:04

did you know you were looking for? Did you know what you mean?

Kute Blackson  17:07

I was looking for happiness. I was looking for my true purpose. I was looking for myself. I was looking look at that time, you know, I wanted to be the next Oprah and I was chasing success. And I was chasing fame. And I wanted to make an impact. But I think maybe I got caught up in the sort of egocentric Hollywood Game of like, I want to be Oprah. And I want to change the world, which is great. But I think I got so attached, and I got so rejected and so attached that I think it just got to the place of feeling like I was looking for success and validation in the world. And nothing was really bringing me fulfillment and happiness. You know, I got a radio show wasn’t happy, had a beautiful girlfriend wasn’t happy. And I thought, what is what is this life, this isn’t what I came to America for. I came for a different reason. And so shaved my head, put everything in storage, let go of everything. So everything traveled, when will the Camino in northern Spain, went to Thailand study with monks went to Israel, you know, all roads for me ended up leading to India, where most mystical spiritual seekers ended up and ended up in India in search, I wanted to find happiness, you know, real happiness. And so, you know, in LA, I saw a lot of people were chasing dreams, but they weren’t happy, and they weren’t fulfilled. And so that really, that was a wake up call for me, because I saw all of these people obsessively chasing a dream. And I saw people that were at the beginning of that journey. I also saw people that were in the 40s, and 50s, and 60s, at the end of that journey, some had achieved and some hadn’t achieved. And I didn’t see a lot of people that were truly happy and fulfilled. And so as I went on this quest that I ended up in India and had some really profound awakening reality experiences in India that broke and cracked me open. And it was out of that, that I came back to LA months later, and felt like I had no money, no status, no bank, nothing. But I felt such a sense of inner freedom, and in the joy and the happiness that I wanted people to feel what I felt. And that’s when I started working with with people one on one. And one person showed up and another person showed up. And this was before coaching was a thing. And one person showed up another person. Before you knew it, more and more people started showing up and my coaching practice grew. And then over the years, it’s expanded into speaking and, you know, seminars and traveling and speaking around the world and filling in hotel rooms, the dreams I had as a kid, and then writing books and all of that good stuff. So that’s the best a bit of the short version of my notes in my version


Scott D Clary  19:38

It’s incredible. Some of the things that I’ve noticed that you pointed out, which are very interesting, and I’d love to unpack it because you you were drawn into the same environment that everybody else was drawn into when they’re part of the US and they’re part of the rat race, and they’re trying to figure out what success looks like and they’re hustling and they’re working hard and they never really live and you learn left your you left your your dad’s congregation. And then you came to the US and you’re almost drawn into it. So you actually with high self awareness, you understood that you left the US again. And you almost like did like a quick like deprogram of everything that was drawing you into the US all the all the things that people get stuck into their whole life and then you came back. And you taught now how to sort of deprogram and remove yourself away from all the negative. So I think what and it ties back to the another point you made that was very interesting how the people that don’t have a lot are extremely happy. And people that do have almost anything you could ever ask for. And then some are not happy. And how do we, how do we do what you did? How do we do what you did? How do you teach people to deprogram and, and to understand what’s meaningful so that they don’t look back when they’re 70? Or 80 Or 90? And then say, like, I wasted my life trying to figure out something that doesn’t even doesn’t even actually mean anything when I’m on my deathbed.


Kute Blackson  20:56

Yeah, I so I think I’d do my best to explain it in two parts. The first part is just because you mentioned an important word programmed, right? How you deprogram. The fact is, first and foremost, we are programmed. And we don’t know what program. So part of the challenge is, we don’t think we’re programmed, we think that who we are, is who we really are. But we don’t realize that who we are, is a process of being conditioned by society, by parents, by ancestors, by society, by media, by religion, by education, by media, by television, I mean, the list goes on the matrix of life conditions us and so we end up this product thinking this is who we are not, not, not having the awareness that we appropriate. So the first step to breaking out of the programming is to become aware that you actually program and we have to start questioning and so as an example, and I’ll share a few questions that that one can start asking. We’re born as children with these free beings, you look into a child’s eyes a child is in touch with the rest since a child is not so programmed with a child doesn’t know like a baby a kid doesn’t know what’s right, what’s wrong. who’s right who’s black white racism, this is just in touch with like a child, a baby Williams will stand on the table and sing it doesn’t care. If it doesn’t sound like Bruno Mars or Celine Dion. It doesn’t have that self consciousness or what do people think that they liked me? It’s just being itself it Bing Bing, what happens we lose touch with that a child will stand naked, it doesn’t care. What am I fat, what it just being is radiant is like I’m beautiful. Just being what happens to the Beingness. See, as children were born, hold perfect, complete in touch with our true essence in touch with the infinite sparks, divine spark, that what our true essential self. What happens is we incarnate, and we meet our parents, or parents, they’re just doing the best that they could do based on their programming. And often they don’t know that their program, they’re just being what they’ve been taught to be. But women are parents, and we’re born into a preset framework of conditioning. And there’s pain and this hurt and there’s dysfunction and there’s trauma, maybe dad’s an alcoholic, maybe mom is an alcoholic, maybe there’s abuse, mental, emotional, physical, sexual, maybe there’s divorce, maybe there’s abandonment, you know, maybe maybe our parents were great people, but they just didn’t know how to be present for us. They didn’t know how to meet our emotional needs. And so the process of conditioning that is often unconscious begins at a very, very, very young age begins almost from the beginning of time, the beginning moments of when we incarnate The first thing is as a young being we learn to shut down disconnect, we’re in this environment, stuff is going on it’s painful. So we learn to shut down disconnect and not feel we learn to develop all sorts of defense mechanisms shut down disconnect not feel the fact that mum is not they’re not feeling the fact that they’re screaming and fighting all the time, and it’s too painful. So we start shutting down, disconnecting not seeming, suppressing those emotions, suppressing those emotions, suppressing those emotions, we start developing all sorts of defense mechanisms as a coping mechanism to deal with the craziness to deal with the fighting to deal with the uncertainty to deal with the pain around the shutdown, disconnect not feel all of those feelings that we don’t feel we don’t process we suppress begin to develop layers and layers and layers and layers and layers and layers and layers. And before you know it our true light, our true freedom, our true essence, our real self kind of gets hidden underneath all of the unfelt suppressed emotions and feelings and then we start contorting ourselves into a way of being to not deal with that pain we become tough we we we start not giving a shit I don’t care. These are all defense mechanisms to not to not Feel the pain, because we’re so sensitive. And deep down unconsciously we develop these defense mechanisms that start disconnecting us from who we really are as a way so that we never feel that level of pain again. So now we start controlling, and then we go into our life. And then we do relationships. Imagine we we learned the mechanism that we learned at age five, now we’re still doing at age 25. And he’s 30 so that we don’t feel that level of pain again. And we wonder why are my relationships not working? So often, we’re still stuck inside of these defense mechanisms, unconsciously, thinking that we are not just that way, I just don’t, I’m just I just I’m gonna, I’m not an attached person. I’m just independent, not realizing that sometimes our independence is a defense mechanism for not getting needs met or being hurt, okay. And then we start developing, so we avoid pain, then we start developing all sorts of roles, masks and personas, and we start contouring ourselves into some shape. In order to get love validation and approval from those around us. Who do I need to be in order for dad to love me Who do I need to be in order to be loved by the world love validation approve approval for me? Unconsciously, I learned that I needed to be the good boy, I needed to be the good son, I needed to be perfect, get all A’s be appropriate, take care of everyone else’s needs. But mine and if I do that, wow, cool. You’re so good. You’re amazing. And and that got reinforced. And so now I started to develop a role model that it wasn’t who I really was. Because in doing that unconsciously, we start betraying ourselves, we start lying to ourselves, we start betraying our authentic expression. In order to get love validation, approval, avoid pain, love validation approval, it’s a survival mechanism. Before you know it, we get locked into a certain shape a certain pattern of being of conditioning. And we think that the pattern that we have become right, Scott coupe like coot is a certain pattern. Scott has a certain pattern, right? And the pattern that we become we actually believe that pattern is who we are, we have been programmed into that pattern. So first, I just want people to know, you are not your programming, you are not the pattern, you are not who you think like it’s who you are, who you think you are, or is it who you’ve been conditioned to be because the degree to which we’ve been conditioned, is the degree to which we are not truly free. We don’t have free will. We’re just reacting to the past, we’re reacting to our parents were reacting to not feeling that pain. Again, we’re reacting, unconsciously thinking we’re free. And we’re making choices that way. And so we really have to first number one, be aware that we’re programmed in that way. So what roles what masks what personas are you living inside of that you weren’t even aware? Sometimes you say, Oh, I’m just independent. I’m just shy. No, it’s programming. What roles what masks what personas Have you learned to develop in order to function survive code and get love, start becoming aware of those masks and those limitations, because that will show you where more freedom is. The other thing I will also say is, in order to begin the process, of having a break through the process of being free freedom isn’t free. Freedom will require that you let go of an idea of freedom will require that you let go of who you were. And one of the things that tends to keep us stuck in a certain way of being stuck in the prison of our own conditioning are all the ways that we lie to ourselves, in so many ways, unconsciously, for the reasons I shared. We lie to ourselves, about who we are about what we feel about what we want. And we don’t even know that we lie to ourselves, we think that’s what we really feel. So without truly questioning, it’s hard to break free. And so one of the places we can start is we stay in relationships that we know aren’t right. We work jobs that we know we betray ourselves. And we know this is not the purpose for where I was born. And life ticks on. And life goes on a decade, two decades passes by and we wind up wasting so much time and we’re filled with so much regret and pain and wonder why do I feel so much pain. And so, one of the places we have to start if we want to begin the process of freedom, begin the process of opening and transforming is asking ourselves two or three simple questions. Number one, what lies am I telling myself?



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Kute Blackson  30:47

sounds simple, but not always easy. There is no truth. There is no transformation. Without truth. What lies, am I telling myself, I feel that what lies am I telling myself? I acknowledge that the more honest we’re willing to be the more we’re going to move in the direction of freedom. What lies am I telling myself to read, we have to really want the truth more than we want. But we have, we have to want to be free more than we want what we want. And the challenging thing is if we’re really honest, no judgement, if we’re really honest, as human beings, most of the time we want our safety. We want our comfort, rather than freedom. And so question I asked people is, what do you want more than anything else? What sounds like a simple question. What do you want more than anything else? Because if you want to be truly free, more than anything else, nothing will stop it. The thing is, most of us we don’t want to be free more than anything else. Because we’re kind of holding on and attached to what we’re going to have to give up. And so we’re often afraid of feeling the truth, speaking the truth, living the truth, telling the truth, because we’re afraid of the consequence of what will happen for me. I was afraid of the consequences. If I really speak my truth, I’m gonna lose my father forever. If I really speak my truth, I’m gonna be alone. If I really dare to be who I am and speak my truth. Nobody’s gonna love me, my life is over. And so we often let fear hijack us from speaking our truth and sharing our gift and going for it and out of their fear. What are the lies I’m telling myself to be truth is real spiritual practice. Truth is real transformation. Truth is real yoga. Truth is real prayer. Like, so many of the things we’re frustrated about, and we pray about, and we want support about if we started speaking, the truth, would begin to fall away. So what lies am I telling myself to be ruthlessly, compassionately, honest with oneself. The other thing I’ll say is take the pressure off of yourself from having to take action. Sometimes that pressure of having to take action starts making us afraid. And so what we then do is we start playing this game of confusion, and we start confusing ourselves and clouding the truth. Like I’m confused. I don’t know, I’m not sure. I don’t know if this relationship is right. For me, Scott, I don’t know what my purpose is. I’m confused when deep down. We know. We know, we know what we’re here to do. We know the truth. I think there’s a part of us at the deepest level that knows everything. Because at the deepest level, we have a sense at the deepest level, we have a wisdom at the deepest level, we’re connected to everything. But because of the fear of the consequence, we’re often afraid. And so confusion is a defense mechanism from owning our truth, out of fear of the consequence. And so I just invite people, when you take the need to take action and the pressure to take any action off of yourself, then you can just start owning the truth. You know what, I hate my job. You don’t have to leave. Do you don’t have to do anything. Just Own the truth. I hate my job. Not like well, maybe no, no, no. The truth is, I hate my job. The truth is, I’m no longer in I’m not in love. I haven’t been in love for four years. You don’t have to divorce, but just feel the truth. And just let that marinate for a moment. That feeling will begin to burn. And often in a moment you’ll start feeling some things you’ll start feeling some pain, you’ll start feeling some emotion and allow that process to happen. So what lies am I telling myself? What am i Pretending to not know? And what is the what is the lie that I’m telling myself? What is it costing me? The lies that we have been telling ourselves cost us tremendously. What is it costing me? It is painful when we lie to ourselves It’s meant to be painful. To me the pain is a signal, the pain is a blessing, the pain is feedback, the pain is showing us those parts of ourselves that we’re not in touch with the pain is showing us those parts of ourselves that we’re not being honest about the pain is actually a sign that we’re healthy. Because if we lie to ourselves, and we felt great to me, something would be off. And so the fact that we feel pain is a blessing that the issue is not the pain is what we do with that pain. As human beings, we’ve been conditioned to, to not feel the pain, numb the pain, drink it away, six feet away, drag it away, put it away social media in a way, you know, work it away, shut it away, whatever it is, don’t feel the pain. And as a result, we suppress it and we keep ourselves stuck. Pain is a blessing. And so ask yourself, the pain that I’m feeling. If it’s a message, if it’s a messenger, it has a signal, it has a sign, it has a message from me, what is the pain, telling me? What is the pain trying to show me that I’m feeling what is the pain trying to reveal to me that I’m feeling within myself and use the pain as a portal to get in touch with a deeper truth. And it’s that truth that will set you free. The way to start deprogramming and unconditioned in yourself is to tell yourself the truth. It’s number one. So firstly, your way your program, tell yourself the truth, radically, ruthlessly, honestly. And then begin feeling the feelings. begin feeling those feelings that often we’ve learned to control and suppress and not feel and not feeling it is keeping us in a state of stuckness. To me that that is part of the flow of beginning the programming the programming process. And so truth if if all you did was started to tell the real authentic truth to yourself, about who you are, what you want, what you felt, and you live that life will transform radically. That’s my promise. You might lose some people. But likely whatever you lose in your life was no longer truly authentic with who you really are. It was just a match for who you are pretending to be. And most of us, we feel off we feel pain in our lives. Because we’re living a lie.


Scott D Clary  37:15

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Kute Blackson  39:02

Yeah, you’re talking a bit about the theme around purpose. Now, you know, in terms of


Scott D Clary  39:09

when you have to find your purpose, you can’t leave people here, they’re going to be stressed out. They’re gonna be like,


Kute Blackson  39:14

don’t leave me in the in the freefall. Yeah. Okay, so So I have a perspective around this. So I’m going to start, okay, I’m going to start a bit from the macro. And then I’m going to get very, very, very specific for people that will give them actionable things to win in terms of what to do. So I’m going to start saying first off, stop seeking your purpose. Stop seeking your purpose. The drive to find your purpose is actually taking you further away from trying to find your purpose, and many times the ego, who we think ourselves to be a perceived sense of self and conditioned self that we attach to the ego the egos job is to reinforce its exists sense. And so one of the ways that ego reinforces its existence is to seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and find a purpose seeking and never find. And so there’s a part inside of us that really doesn’t want to find our purpose. Because they don’t find my purpose. I don’t have to live my purpose and the seeking the process of seeking continues. And so I say, Stop trying to find your purpose, on a spiritual level. Number one, recognize that you are a soul. You are a soul that incarnate into the human experience. Your soul has incarnated in your soul having a human experience. You’ve heard that before your soul having a human experience, and then the human experience, you incarnate into the human experience in order to learn to grow to evolve. So to me start seeing life Life itself is a school life is an evolution that we score, for the growth and evolution of your Soul Life is a score for the evolution of your soul. And as a result, then, every situation, every experience, every relationship, everything you go through is part of the curriculum for your soul’s evolution, so you can realize more of who you really are, and so that you can learn those lessons and grow and come into your most authentic self. And if you start seeing yourself as a soul, and understanding that, ah, if I’m a soul, and I’m here to grow, then the real purpose, the real, ultimate purpose of life, is to learn the lessons to grow, to evolve, and become your authentic self. And remember who you truly are beyond your programmed conditioned self, to remember your essence, to remember your divinity to remember that infinite spark to remember your true potential and power. If that’s the purpose of life, then you your purpose isn’t what you do. Your purpose is the degree to which you are learning and growing. No matter what you’re doing, you can be living your ultimate purpose, whether you’re a trash collector, a Formula One racecar driver, a podcaster. a stay at home mom, an author, an engineer, an electrician, working as a barista working in Starbucks, that’s what you do, you are not what you do your purpose, on a deep spiritual level, is about of evolution. At any moment, regardless of what you do any moment, you can be living your purpose, so long as you’re growing and evolving and learning and asking yourself, what is my soul seeking to learn in this experience? What is my soul seeking to understand in this situation? What is what is my soul attract this situation? Why did my soul attract? Attract this boss? What am I what what is the classroom that I’m in right now in this experience, and I think when we do that we are growing. When we do that we are living the true purpose. And when we do that, we begin to when we learn those lessons, we begin to transcend the experience and we start attracting new experiences to us. So your purpose can be live, every moment that you grow and learning and evolving. That’s the bigger level now on a human level, which is connected to a question, but I wanted to set a bigger context to connect it to, because I think we live on different levels as souls and human beings on a human level. Stop seeking your purpose instead. So now what the hell do I do? Okay, you can sit there and just try and figure out your purpose from the sidelines. But life doesn’t work that way. That is another can be another strategy of the ego to avoid. Instead, move in the direction if you’re like, I don’t know, Okay, fair enough. But don’t just sit there, move in the direction of what lights you up, move in the direction of what turns you want, move in the direction of what sets your soul on fire move in the direction of what brings you joy, just move in a direction. You don’t have to know where it’s going to end up. You don’t have to know where you’re going to get to exactly where you need to be because there’s an intelligence inside of your soul that knows. It knows. So just go in the direction of like, I feel joy here. I feel aliveness here. I don’t know where this is going to lead me. I don’t even know how I’m going to make money. But at least start navigate rather than just sitting and going I don’t know. And then 10 years go by, go in the direction start moving in a direction. You start moving in a direction of what makes you most alive that aliveness is a sign that aliveness is a navigation that aliveness is a radar that pulls you so as you start going in a direction take a step. You take a step and what you’ll find is life reveals to you another step. You take another step you lean in life reveals to you another step, you lean in life, reverse do another step and often your purpose gets revealed to you in the process of taking a step and living life itself. What will often happen is 10 years from now, 20 years from now, five years from now, three years from now. You look around and you’re like holy moly, I’m, I’m living. I lived into my purpose. I could not have planned this purpose, but I lived into it. But you lived into it because you weren’t on the sidelines trying to figure it out. Because the journey that you go on, you take a step, the journey that you go wanting to in that big step. As you take that step you grow as you take that step you evolve as you take the step you expand as you take that step, your consciousness shift. And as you learn, grow and evolve, you become more ripened, you become more ready for the next step, stop trying to figure out your purpose from the sidelines. You take the step, and then I would say, question number one. Okay? What do I love what turns me on? What brings me joy, move in that direction. For me as a kid, we live behind my father’s church, we didn’t have a lot of money. We live behind my father’s church, my bedroom was so small, you could barely put a one single person bed in it and walk in the room. I had all of these big dreams. So as a kid, I would sneak inside my father’s church, in the middle of the night. 8pm 9pm at 10pm. And every day, I often don’t talk about this, but every day, imagine this kid, 1112 year old kid, I would speak Scott, I would speak to the empty chairs. I would give seminars for two hours a night, an hour a night, I would give seminars to the empty chairs, imagining right imagining I was inspiring people from around the world. I was inspiring people in the US for free. You know, for me, that’s what lit me up. That’s what turned me on. That’s what brought me joy. I will do that for free. I’ve done it for free. I get paid now, but it didn’t matter. And so when you find that joy go in that direction. You don’t have to know the how. So what what turns me on what What sets me on fire? What do I love number two, but that’s not enough. You have to ask yourself, let’s make it more practical, what specific skills they won’t have? What specific tech like I love Formula One racing, okay, this is one of them. I love it. But I’m never going to be Lewis Hamilton in this lifetime. I’m not going to it’s not going to happen. The kid is the dude has been doing that stuff for he’s 37 years old, since he was like three, okay, so it takes a level of actual competence and skill to be able to perform, that’s a reality. But if we look in our lives, I had so many people say to me, I don’t know what skills I have. Just look at your life. Look at every shitty job you’ve been through. Sometimes the jobs that you have, that you need to work in sometimes the jobs that present themselves to you, they’re not your purpose. But sometimes you put there, because there’s a necessary skill that you’re meant to learn in that job. And you’re going to need that piece of the puzzle, that skill to be able to be the person who’s able to then fully fulfill your purpose. And I so I always tell people, when you’re working a job, even if you hate to do it with ultimate excellence, when you do that job with excellence, then you’re able to extract the skill, you become more, but you’re able to extract the skill that gives you part of the ingredient to prepare you for your purpose. And look at all of the jobs, all of the situations, all of the experiences, all of the traumas, all of the breakups, all of the failures that you’ve been through, and look at what specific tangible skills that you learned, those skills are going to be a part of your purpose can and can point you in the direction of perhaps what you’re meant to do lives. Number three, what unique gifts do you have, that you’re able to solve a unique problem? Another way of asking that is, what is the unique problem that you’re able to solve? I always tell people don’t when you think of what to do, don’t simply focus on how do I make the most money, you might make money, but often you’ll be miserable. And if you’re miserable, you’ll sabotage if you’re miserable. It won’t sustain. I work with so many people, one on one in groups, small groups, large groups, billionaires that have made so much money, but they don’t feel any purpose. They don’t feel any connection and they end up sabotaging what they’ve created, or they end up not having the motivation to continue. So I always tell people don’t focus on money. Instead, realize that money is a byproduct of adding value. And when you add value, you add value by solving someone’s pain, someone’s problem or someone’s challenge. And so when you’re able to immerse yourself in question number three, what is the what is the pain problem or challenge that I’m uniquely able to solve based on my gifts based on my skills, because when you saw someone paying from problem or challenge you’re being of true service, and money is just the byproduct of being of service. Number four, I will invite people to really think about on a practical level, which group of people do I feel a connection to? Which group of people do I feel an affinity to maybe you feel a connection to the teenage pregnant goals? Maybe you feel a connection to the physical challenge, maybe you feel a connection to the elderly? Maybe you feel a connection to you know, fill in the blank, the whales maybe who went that you feel a connection to the group of souls people that you feel a connection to, will often also might might, it might point you in the direction of where your service and where your purpose or what you’re meant to do. where you’re meant to share your gifts, where that lies. You don’t have to know where you’re going to end up. But that can start giving you a directional navigation in terms of where to go. And don’t wait. Look at Oprah. There’s no way Oprah could have planned her life. Yeah, I’m gonna plan at this age, this is going to happen. And by the time I’m 3040 5050 50 years old, 60 years old, I’m going to be the most powerful media mogul woman in the world. You can’t play billionaire. You can’t plan that. But she loved communication. She loved communication. She didn’t sit on the sidelines until she was a billionaire. She loves communication. So she became a newscaster and she became a newscaster she had too much compassion. So she would cry while reading the news. This wasn’t a good, a good thing to do. And so they fired her. They gave her a job. I think it was on a on a on a talk show in Baltimore. It might not be Baltimore. But I think it was Baltimore on a single station. Now her compassion and her sensitivity was able to be married with her love for communication in the most compassionate she was for people. The most successful a show became boom, syndication, boom, number one show boom. 25 years later, Oprah look at Obama. I mean, how does Obama Love him or hate him is irrelevant to me. But look at Obama, how does this guy is 19 Go? Yeah, I’m going to be President of the United States is that he started somewhere. And that led him and so I really believe that if you follow your soul, follow the nudging, follow the nudging, it doesn’t always have to make sense. If you follow that nudging of your soul, your soul as an intelligence, it will guide you. And you will, that’s when you will often end up where you will often end up when you allow your soul to guide you will be beyond what your mind can manufacture and create on its own.


Scott D Clary  51:50

Talk Talk to me about want to go down this path. Talk to me about mindset, courage, getting out of your own way so that you can do your best work and not let not let you get in the way of you. Because if you listen to the instructions you’ve just given over. Now you have the playbook and the guide for deprogramming and finding clarity and finding purpose. And now you want to go forward. So what do I do so that I don’t always fall back into my old habits?


Kute Blackson  52:20

You know, so it was a couple of things. We’ll start with a basic first they think


Scott D Clary  52:26

incredible, by the way that thank you for going into all this I appreciate


Kute Blackson  52:29

surround yourself on a basic level surround yourself with, with a group of people with a community of people. Because sometimes the eyeball doesn’t see itself. And sometimes we convince ourselves about some things that’s just complete BS and we believe our own BS and so when you surround yourself with people that can hold you accountable, right and reflect to you who you are, they can hold you accountable. Number one, so when they see you’re going down a path, they’re like, hey, hey, hey, Scott, Scott, Scott, come on, come on you. What are you doing here, or when you forget who you are you forget your truth, you forget your power, you have a moment, a human moment, they will look at you as a Hey, Scott, remember, come on, I know who you are, I see who you are. And so when you surround yourself with that group of that tribe of people that can remind you of your own magnificence, hold you accountable reminds you of your magnificence, even when you forget, that’s a very important container. I think in our world today, we lacked that we missed that we we haven’t prioritized that. So find the tribe, surround yourself with those people hold each other accountable, and remind them of who they are. That’s super important in terms of keeping your mindset high, in a world and environment where we’re constantly being bombarded by the news and so much, so much nonsense. You know, I always say the news and the media have no investment in you being free. Because the moment you’re free, the moment you know who you are, the moment you know that you are an infinite powerful being you can no longer live in fear you can no longer be controlled and manipulated. Now you become truly dangerous and powerful to impact humanity. The other thing I would say is that your question? Sounds simple, but I would say yeah, surrender, practice, surrender. Practicing to, to be to being in flow is practicing surrender. We are constantly for the reasons I’ve shared, you know, the the mechanism of our programming and our egos and how we hold on to avoid pain to not feel some things. We’re constantly resisting life constantly resisting the flow. But I think the more we can surrender, the more life flows life is already flowing. We just put the brakes on and the more we can surrender, the more we can live in harmony with life, we start seeing that life has a rhythm and life has a flow that don’t take it from me. Take it from Bruce Lee. And if you think that surrender or surrender What do you mean? If you think surrender was weak? Look at Bruce The man this guy was a monster. This guy was amazing. This guy was incredible. This guy can kick anyone’s ass on the planet. And he said, be like water. He didn’t say be like a bull. He didn’t say be like a lion. He didn’t say be like a frickin beast, he said, be like water. When you put water into a teapot, it becomes a teapot. When you put water into a cup, it becomes a cup. You have the flow. But because of our addiction to control, or the illusion of control, we stopped flowing, so surrender in our culture today, so I really believe that surrender is perhaps the most powerful thing that we can do. If you want to be a super achiever if you want to be truly great. I’m talking great like Jesus Buddha Mother Teresa, Bruce Lee Muhammad Ali Ghandi, you know, it okay, this is going to be maybe a little controversial Elon Musk, or Mandela, like if you want to be truly great, great, really great. Jordan, Michael Jackson, great. You have to surrender. And that surrender is the password to freedom. Surrender was the key to greatness. Surrender is the key. The real secret to to, to manifestation is in surrender. In our culture. Today, we have been taught, mistakenly that surrender is weak. We have been taught mistakenly that surrender is means giving up, it means waving the white flag, it means being a doormat, it means being a victim that if you surrender, you’re going to be taken advantage of that if you surrender, you won’t manifest your goals, dreams or desires, you’d be a monk and shave your head and, you know, go to the Himalayas and give everything up. But who the hell wants to do that? Right? If you surrender, then you’re going to get less in life. And I want to reframe this whole concept because I think if there’s something that people can practice, and it’s a practice, I’m not saying will happen all at once, but if there’s something that people can begin practicing, as you start deprogramming yourself, is surrender, that if you surrender, what if you didn’t get less? Or what if you’ve got more, more than you could even have planned and imagined with your logic and your mind and your own egos capacity to control so Surrender means letting go of control, or I should say, letting go of the control that you thought you had? If you look at the last couple of years of this pandemic, I think we’re being reminded that perhaps we weren’t in as much control as we thought, as humanity. We weren’t I mean, we thought we were going on trajectory. 2020 Boom, life exploded. The Universe saying, Hey, you thought you guys thought you were in control. Take a look. Quick reminder. Quick reset. Surrender is to stop trying to force life, manipulating and forcing life to fit your limited idea of how you think it should look and how you think it should be. Because so often we we think we know what we want, and we tried to force life to fit our idea. We tried to force people to fit what we want them to be but trying to force something to be or force someone to be doesn’t make it. So surrender is being open. Surrender is being available. Surrender is letting go of who you think you should be, and how you think life should be so that you can be truly open, truly available. truly curious. When we surrender, you live open and you allow life to show you you’re allowing life you’re co creating with lots, when you surrender, you take the limits off of life, and you’re open, many of us we don’t realize in our forcing, it’s got to be this. This person has to be the one life has to be this has to be my career. We don’t realize we end up with frickin limiting life. We’re putting limitation with choking life. We’re putting limitations on life. And sometimes we get so attached to what we think we want that we go to life with that thing saying life, I really want this peanut we’re not aware that life is seeking to give us a whole buffet. But we’re attached to this peanut because that’s all we can see. That’s all our limited egos can see. But when you’re open and you’re available, you live in surrender and when you are in surrender, you are you are open to infinite possibilities and life. Infinite. How many scouts how many stars are there in the sky? How many grains of sand are there right now? You and I were breathing. You’re breathing. I’m breathing. We’re having this great conversation. We’re not sitting here going, Okay, we’ve got to force our breath, man, Scott, breathe, breathe, because if you don’t breathe, if you don’t breathe like shit, we’re gonna die from this conversation. It’s just happening in spite of us. We’re laughing we’re talking we’re connecting with shea breath is happening. You wait, you know, I just had lunch earlier. You had breakfast this morning. Maybe someone had a smoothie or kale salad or steak or salmon, whatever. You have your vegan I’m sorry, but you have whatever you had. And how is it that your your hand doesn’t turn into a steak or a salmon or smoothie doesn’t tell? chimps have an innate intelligence site inside of you that knows exactly what to do. Cut your finger. You don’t have to be a good person, you’re not even pray or meditate. Healing happens to me the same intelligence that is functioning you and breathing you and breathing means the same intelligence as breathing all of existence is the same intelligence that is function, the sun, the star, the moon. I mean, how, when was the last time the sun didn’t come out? There’s an intelligence functioning life. And so how do we not trust this? How do we not trust life? Like Like, how do you not trust life when every second life is showing us but we just forget. So I just tell everyone, breathe. Take a moment, get in touch with your breath, take a moment to slow down, connect with your body. Feel this intelligence in your body, meditate in your body, get into relationship with your body, and you start feeling your body you start getting back into Wow, there is something beating me there is something breathing me there’s something function me. Okay, spend time in nature. Slow down, spend time in nature. As human beings, we’ve become so disconnected from nature that we have forgotten that we are a part of nature. When you spend time in nature, and you see the rhythms and cycles and the seasons and the sun and the moon. It’s like, wait a second, something is functioning existence, that we are a part of this existence, then it starts reminding us, oh, maybe I don’t have to like control everything. I don’t have to control everything. And everyone on okay, can relax. And observe. And allow is the allowing, that helps us kind of get out of the way. If you look at peak performance, if you look at don’t take it from me, because you might say this cute guy, you know, as a nice, no, take it from Michael Jordan. Okay, everybody wants to be like Mike, when he would play, he would always talk about being in the zone, he would always talk about, he would dissolve, he was gone. When he was in that zone. Michael Jackson, one of the greatest dancers in the world, we’ll talk about when he was dancing, there was no more him dancing, there was just the dance happening. Getting out of the way. And I think when we dare to get out of the way, and realize we’re not doing life, life is doing us life has been around for billions of years. That’s when we transcend ourselves. That’s when we transcend our egos limited capacity to make shit happen. And then we tap into another dimension of life. And then then I have found the power of life. And the full energy begins, life begins to manifest through you see the old paradigm that we’ve been conditioned. And I read a hell of a lot of books as a kid growing up, it’s all about know what you want. Get what you want, know what you want, get what you want, how to get what you want, how to get what you want, how to get what you want? No, but we never question Who is this AI that is programmed the condition. And so many times you get what you thought you wanted, then you end up realizing maybe what I thought I wanted is not what I really wanted, because I’m not really happy. Maybe what I thought I wanted is not what I really wanted. It’s just what I thought I wanted based on who I thought I was. But if I’m not in touch with who I really am, then what I thought I wanted is just going to be an illusion, or a projection of something that’s not a true authentic desire. Maybe as a child, that wasn’t enough and there wasn’t there. And I thought, if I can get that Lamborghini, if I can get that girl, I get that house, get that thing, then I’m gonna be worthy and valuable. So many times we don’t realize that what we want our goals aren’t always authentic. They’re coming from wounds, they’re coming from projections. And so you can manifest life by getting in the way people have done. You can’t I’m not gonna say you can’t you can live a good life and create lots of people do it. But it won’t be a great life. Mandela lived a great life. He could Mandela could not have imagined. He could not have sat down and scripted. And imagine that kind of life. Yeah, I’m going to spend 26 years in prison. And then I’m going to come out and I’m going to be Nelson Mandela, Mandela. That’s not a life you can imagine. But he did surrender himself to his calling. He did surrender himself to the deep calling of his soul. For him, it will look different for you enough. But for him that led him to 26 years in prison. Should he have not spent 26 years in prison? What would have happened if he didn’t spend 26 years in prison? Would he have become the Nelson Mandela, that we know maybe that 26 years in prison was a necessary marination the necessary preparation for his soul to develop the mental the emotional, spiritual, psychological empathy, forgiveness soul force, so that he could come out and be the Mandela that even when he’s dead now he’s still inspiring people to this day. So should it not have happened? You know? And so for me the question that we need to start asking ourselves in the new paradigm is not what do I want? Because sometimes what we think we want is not what we really want. The real question to ask is slightly different question. What is it that life wants to express? What is the deepest impact? I want everyone to just try? Just try it? What is what is the deepest impulse, the deepest impulse of my soul? What does my soul want to express? What is the most authentic, deepest impulse of my being? What is? What does God want to express? What is the infinite one Express? What does the universe want express? What does my soul want to express me whatever you want to label it, call, it doesn’t matter to me, what is the deepest, most authentic expression of my being want to do feel that be still be silent feel that we know we have a sense and move in that direction. When you move in that direction, then you’re going going in, you’re going in an authentic path, you’re living in alignment, then you can align your goals, your intentions, your actions, with what’s true. And then you go into action, you give 100%, you give everything it might mean, you work harder than you’ve ever work, it might mean you work 20 hours a day for the cause. That’s true. It might mean you quit your job, it might mean you you you go protest for something you believe that you’ve been afraid to believe, but it’s in your soul. But you let go, the attachment to the outcome is the attachment to the outcomes that create suffering.


Scott D Clary  1:06:44

Can you talk on one more thing that I thought sure interesting. The last the last main point that I wanted to pull out of you, there’s, you could go, I have like 20 things. And we can do like five of these. And if you ever do want to see Formula One is coming to Miami. So you should come to Miami. And then we should do an in person because it would be incredible. But you let me know anyway, we can organize. But the last thing that I really wanted to touch on at least for today, I wanted to touch on the importance of death, embracing death, understanding your own mortality, understanding that life is temporary, because I think that that can be we talked about fear. And we talked about, we talked about pain. And we talked about understanding the things that will allow us to embark on this journey that we’ve been speaking about for the past hour. I think that I think that understanding what death is, is one of the most important things that can be that catalyst for us taking action because it puts a time limit on what we can what we can do. And I thought it was just a nice sort of bow to finish off this thought. And so we’ve gone through this journey of deprogramming finding clarity, finding purpose, and, and and getting out of your own way when you do find that purpose. But let’s, let’s put some urgency on it.


Kute Blackson  1:07:57

Yeah, look, the urgency is, well, bigger urgency than death. So I would just tell everyone, you are going to die. You’re going to die. Feel that? Let me say that again. You’re going to die. If that’s not the greatest motivational speech ever. I mean, you are going to die. I feel that so often. The issue is, so many of us were avoiding death. We were distracting ourselves to death. We’re distracting ourselves with frivolous entertainment. Nothing wrong with it. But we waste so much of our time on stuff that’s not important. And we waste and we try to avoid death. But if you can just do one thing, hold death close. Hold it close. Keep it near. Feel your death daily, not as a morbid thing, or a sad thing but as just a real sobering reality of life. When you feel death close to me, if you can’t feel an embrace of death, you will never truly be able to feel an embrace and live life fully. The degree to which you can embrace death, you will get in touch with the sacredness and preciousness of this moment. The reality of this moment that this moment is the only guarantee tomorrow is not a right when my mother passed away in 2017 due to stomach cancer. I thought I had time. There was so many things Scott I wanted to do with my mom. There was so many plans I wanted to I wanted to make and I thought I had time I thought I had time I thought we can do it tomorrow. I didn’t I didn’t prioritize so much. There’s so many things. The only regret I have in my life and I’ve done a lot of stuff. Now spending more time with my mom. And so I want you all to feel your death Jesus died Buddha died. Bruce Lee died. Muhammad Ali died, Muhammad died. Lao Tzu died Socrates died, Brahma. These great ones are going to die You and I are going to die. It’s guaranteed it’s the only good until the body will die. What makes us afraid is we think and we’ve been conditioned and programmed by culture, society media, to believe that we are just this limited ego structure. Because if we can believe that we’re just this limited ego structure, we can be manipulated and controlled with fear, you’re gonna die, you’re gonna die, oh, shit. But when you know that you’re not just this body. When you know that you are a soul. Your soul is beyond birth and beyond death. This body is the vehicle that carries your soul in this lifetime. Connection connects you to a different reality, a different freedom, a different knowing. And so ask yourself, Who am I? And what am I, to me? This is the purpose of life to realize that who am I? And what am I? Am I just this body, this body is constantly changing. This is not the same body you had when you were five, this is not the same body you had five years ago. It’s not the same body you had three years ago. In fact, every seven years is said that your body physically changes. So who am i Are you just this body when you realize and know that you’re not just this body, you start to realize that what you are can never die. That’s a freedom that opens up in the knowing that you’re infinite, but this body will die, this version of you as you will dissolve. And when you can embrace that, because you embrace your true immortality, and you embrace your physical mortality. The people in 911, or any disaster had no idea that they weren’t going to come home that night and look their loved ones in the eyes and say, Hey, I’m sorry. Or I love you, or forgive me. They thought they had time and we don’t. And when you die, and you meet your maker, you can’t go to God and say, God, can I get a refund on those two years I wasted in that relationship, those five years are wasted in that job. When the time is gone, it’s gone. And it’s gone forever. So if that came today, some of you might feel we’ve been so dramatic, but I promise you the people that died today, most of them didn’t think they were dying today. It just happened in that car accident. It just happened in that moment. And so if death came today, would you be ready? If not, why not? What would you need to say? What would you need to do? What would you need to communicate? Well, who would you need to forgive? I’m saying, do it now. So that if death came, you could throw your arms open and die, with no regrets to me, that is to be fully alive. So live life fully, we have one opportunity, you know, at this, this life, at least as this version of ourselves, we have one opportunity and so live life fully. You know, life is short, life is sweet. Life is precious, it’s not perfect. And it’s perfect. In so many ways. That’s what makes it beautiful.


Scott D Clary  1:12:58

If you were going to look back at all the work that you’ve done, and the things that you’ve completed with your time on Earth, what do you want your legacy to be? What do you want to have had accomplished?


Kute Blackson  1:13:10

You know? Just just to have, I think it’s simple. Now, you know, I want to have inspired people to remember who they really are. And to love more fully. Because I think everything else from there will take care of itself.


Scott D Clary  1:13:37

Let’s do to finish this off. I want to do rapid fire. But most importantly, before we pivot, let’s go into all the links where people can connect with you where people can learn more people can get your book all of that.


Kute Blackson  1:13:47

Cool. Thank you very much. Yeah, that’s depending on people listen to the conversation. The book, the magic of surrender is coming out in paperback on May the third. So go to Amazon, you can pre order the book and get a bunch of free gifts. So go to Amazon, preorder the book. And then on May the seventh, again, depending on timing, may the seventh I’m doing a very special online virtual live event. It’s called reinvent life. Two to three hours. I’m going to dive deep how to reinvent yourself connect to your authentic power and share your gifts with the world. When you get the book on Amazon, go to www kute forward slash reinvent seminar that’s k u t forward slash reinvent seminar. And then just enter your name email and your receipt info from the paperback from Amazon and then you get access to the free event you get access to a whole bunch of gifts there. I’m on Instagram kute Blackson say hi Facebook group Blackson my website Ken Blackson. If anyone feels moved by today’s conversation and you want to go for some deep dive transformation, my favorite thing to do is I do a 12 day event in Bali twice a year. The next one is July the 25th. And then also December the fourth December the fifth, sorry to have these in Bali if you’re ready for your next level and you want to share your gifts with the world. www, boundless bliss.


Scott D Clary  1:15:15

Beautiful. Okay, let’s do a couple rapidfire to close this out. So you’ve had quite a life and incredible career, but what keeps you up at night now?


Kute Blackson  1:15:28

What keeps me up at night? Honestly, nothing. Nothing really keeps me up at night I sleep like, like a, like a log. You know, I just, you know, I just love people. Ultimately, I love human beings. I love humanity. And so just reaching more people, inspiring more people and wanting to help people transform,


Scott D Clary  1:15:53

biggest challenge you’ve overcome in your personal life? What was it? How did you overcome it? What do you learn from it?


Kute Blackson  1:15:59

There’s been so many. One, I’ll pick one. Because it’s a meaningful one. Maybe there’s the others are more difficult, but it’s healing the relationship with my father, we weren’t very close growing up, there was a, at least for me a tremendous sort of resentment towards him for not feeling supported. And in the last years, especially since my mother passed away even more a whole nother level, I’ve really healed the relationship with my father. And I call him every day, as a duty as a love as a as a as an offering to Him, you know, and it’s really transformed our relationship in a big way. I gave up every expectation of him being anything and just decided that I was going to love him. And that I’m very proud of that. To be honest.


Scott D Clary  1:16:49

This may be this may or may be the same answer or not. But the question is, she had to pick one person said a major impact on your life, there’s obviously been many, but who would one person be? And what did you learn from them?


Kute Blackson  1:17:00

I pick my mother. I mean, she loved me completely, unconditionally, and was one of the most selfless, humble human beings I’ve ever met in my entire life. And when she passed away, in those last moments, I realized that she was in effect an enlightened being. And I never knew it. Because she was fearless. And she didn’t have to tell anyone. She’d have to promote it to anyone. She didn’t need fame, she didn’t need fortune. She just knew who she was. She was not afraid to die. Because she knew she looked me in the eyes. She says I’m not this body. I’m a soul. And she’s a very special being. And so she gives me a lot of courage, you know, from the other side.


Scott D Clary  1:17:51

If you had to pick one book, podcast, one source that has inspired you that somebody should go check out


Kute Blackson  1:17:59

Ramana Maharishi and all old. Enlightened Indian mystic.


Scott D Clary  1:18:08

It’s good. Very good. If you had to tell your 20 year old self one thing, what would it be?


Kute Blackson  1:18:15

Many things but one thing I would say. be both. Take those risks. And start investing your frickin money right now. So it can compound interest.


Scott D Clary  1:18:29

That’s good. Good advice. Good advice. No, it’s good. Last question. What does success mean to you?


Kute Blackson  1:18:39

Successfully  means just knowing who I am, you know and being free to be that and live there each moment. Pretty simple. Knowing my true when I say know who I am is knowing who I truly am. As a spiritual being statue successful


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